Most people have it wrong. The method for fighting for someone who has pushed you out of their life isn’t by begging for your life, describing every thousandth reason why you should be together, crying, blackmailing therefore reconfirming the reasons why they went away in the first place.
You fight by giving them space, enjoying the things that make you happy and your life therefore reminding them of the reasons they fell in love with you in the first place. Here you’re fighting for your own life, to get it back. Not theirs. You can’t make someone else happy when you’re not happy with yourself.
If despite all this, their interest is never regained, at least you should be able to live with that by then. Be strong. Make your own life come first. Then walk away.
Relationships are complex entities, made up of a number of factors that all need to come together to make it work. While no two relationships are the same, they share some common factors that come together to help form a winning combination….
“Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us.”—Emery Allen (via wethinkwedream)
“You know what I think we are most afraid of? Not knowing. Not knowing whether it’s all really worth it. Not knowing if you should give up or keep fighting. Not knowing why you do the things you do; not knowing the purpose. It’s like when you’re little and you touch the stove and get burned because you didn’t know that it was hot. Not knowing has always hurt us, from the every beginning.”—(via red2a)
He is not a constellation. You should not wish to be the cigarette touching his lips. He will not appear through the fog and heal your wounds. Only you can do that. So get out of bed and put on some lipstick. Stop falling at his feet. Save yourself.
“Tonight, I’ll show you how dreams are prepared. People think it’s a very simple and easy process but it’s a bit more complicated than that. As you can see, a very delicate combination of complex ingredients is the key. First, we put in some random thoughts. And then, we add a little bit of reminiscences of the day… mixed with some memories from the past.”—Stephane; The Science of Sleep (2006)
“There are girls who do not like real life. When they hear the sharp belches of its engines approaching along the straight road that leads from childhood, through adolescence, to adultery, they dart into a side turning. When they take their hands away from their eyes, they find themselves in the gallery of the ballet. There they sit for many years feeding their imagination on those fitful glimpses of a dancer’s hand or foot. When I was young I too “adored” the ballet. What appeals to these girls is the moonlit atmosphere of love and death.”—Quentin Crisp, The Naked Civil Servant (via theballetblog)
“I pity the woman who will love you
when I am done. She will show up
to your first date with a dustpan
and broom, ready to pick up all the pieces
I left you in. She will hear my name so often
it will begin to dig holes in her. That
is where doubt will grow. She will look
at your neck, your thin hips, your mouth,
wondering at the way I touched you.
She will make you all the promises I did
and some I never could. She will hear only
the terrible stories. How I drank. How I lied.
She will wonder (as I have) how someone
as wonderful as you could love a monster
like the woman who came before her. Still,
she will compete with my ghost.
She will understand why you do not look
in the back of closets. Why you are afraid
of what’s under the bed. She will know
every corner of you is haunted
by me.”—-Clementine von Radics (via wethinkwedream)